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Monday, February 10, 2014

6 Attitudes Ladies Should Not Reveal To Men

No one is perfect but we should be able to caution our attitudes sometimes. Not only do guys make mistake with girls,the girls
have their faults too,there are some things that are common with some ladies. Here are some
mistakes ladies should not make with guys :
1. Being too forward: When a guy approaches you, there are reasons to his actions. Its either because he likes you,need an help from you or something else. Girls are fond of saying “he just wants to toast me,that’s all and am not interested,so what’s the point answering him”. Chill girls,some just need your friendship,help etc,try to get his route first,don’t be too forward.
You might be wrong. Just pretend you don’t know that’s the likely thing on his mind. Give him the space to be himself. When you are able to picture his motive then you can try being smart with it.
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2. Drawing conclusions too soon: When a guy asks for a date,we always feel he is going to ask for a romantic relationship at that end,though it is common that way but let’s still honour them if we have the chance to and allow him speak his mind, Maybe he just wants to know you better or start a friendship before speaking his mind. We shouldn’t just tell him to his face that ” I know you brought
me here to tell me you love me,so just start talking” .It shouldn’t be that way,let him have his way as a man because when you tell a man that you know his intentions and he then feels embarrassed about it,he may decide to change it and tell you it was something else, and at the same time you could also be wrong,so its better you let him do the talking and you do the answer.
3. Trying to impress Men: Ladies are fond of impressing guys about their worth,let him find out himself. Humility pays! Don’t flaunt your luxuries at him, he might feel intimidated,and if
you try bragging about it,he would not want to mix up with a lady of pride and such exuberance. Just be a classic woman,let him explore more to find out about you . Don’t piss him off yourself. A
guy wouldn’t want a proud woman in his life. If you are lucky to have all what you need in high taste, just be low about it because men usually observe a ladies attitude from the very moment he sets his eyes on her. Always be real.
4. Being too quick to express your feelings: Am
not saying you shouldn’t express yourself but please be careful about it. Guys have a lot of motives towards girls but yet he remains nice and calm,the kind of guy you want. Don’t get carried
away by his beauty. Yes,we have
handsome,tall,cute guys that you will wish to be around but not all have good intentions. Not all are meant for you too. Don’t quote me wrong. He might just need your body or your love. Try finding out well before showing that you admire him. Hmmmmn,from experience,it is still preferable for a guy to express his likeness first.
Its not a matter of African mentality but we still have guys that will take advantage of you if you show too much. Well,its your choice to flaunt it all at him. Remain reserved. You can only express freely when there is something going on already.
5.Telling him your problems: Some ladies now feel its so comfortable to tell a guy about their problems on the first date. The fact is that some girls do it to get a quick cash from men while some can be real. Since guys have the mentality that you are only trying to get their money,he
would either believe you and spend it or promise and fail you. Some guys now judge all girls as the same likewise girls,so no matter what you say or do,he still feels you are up to something. So be careful how and when you relate your issues so as not to push him off.
6. Acting like a flirt: Some girls now think that the
best and fastest way to get a guy is being hot and sexy. Wearing dresses that shows off too much and acting like a bitch around him. Stop that! Keep your dignity for someone special. Stop flaunting it at all guys. They would get a wrong signal and flow with you that way. They would see you as a cheap girl. Be modest in dressing, speech etc. There is one special guy out there that would love your simplicity and love you that way.
Well,I don’t expect all girls to be in support of these because many believe in dressing and looking hot and the likes. This is for ladies who believe in self worth and practice it that way.
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Tuesday, February 4, 2014

24 Ways To Win A Nigerian Girls Heart [MUST READ]


Please dont try it with foreign girls only Nigerian Girls.

1. When she asks how she looks, shrug and say "could be better." This will keep her on her toes, and girls love that.

2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of weakness. If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really, really hard until she cries. This will impress her by showing her what a strong man you are.

3. Once a month sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Girls are like dogs. They love to be roughed up.

4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If she is, say "you better be." Repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will show her you care.

5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement, and every girl needs some improvement.

6. Recognize the small things; they usually mean the most. Then when she's sleeping, steal all her small things and break them. Because jewelry is for wussies and Asian ladies.

7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words 'john tesh you,' and grab the other girl's backside. Girls love competition.

8. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard. When she starts to get upset tell her you were just kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something like that lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear ", because I can."

9. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick". Women love those special nicknames.

10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD.

11. Warm her up when she's cold,  but not by giving her your jacket, because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and say, "If you don't stop pinkberrying about the cold right now, you're going to be pinkberrying about a black eye." The best way to get warm is with fear.

12. Take her to a party. When you get there she'll have to go to the bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when the party's dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you at the party.

13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet. Kick the pet. I always find stuff like that funny. Why shouldn't girls?

14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10 minutes then JUMP UP AND SCREAM IN HER EAR! Repeat until she goes home and you can use your arms for more important things. Like basketball.

15. Spit often. I hear girls like guys that spit.

16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give her self confidence. Then you can never turn her into the object she deep down desires to be.

17. Every time you're in her house steal one of the following: shoes, earrings, or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the pair. This way she'll go crazy.

18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she's about to order interrupt and say "No, she's not hungry". Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy that speaks for her.

19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then clock her one. Girls love a spontaneous guy.

20. Give her one of your t-shirts,  and make sure it has your smell on it. But not a sexy cologne smell. A bad smell. You know what I'm talking about.

21. If you're listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her no. This way she'll think you're mysterious.

22. Remember her birthday, but don't get her anything. Teach her material objects aren't important. The only thing that's important is that she keeps you happy. And your happiness is the greatest present she can ever get.

23. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then next time you know she's coming over on a trash day leave the trash can open and have the present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don't like this one that much, but I think it's funny.

24. If she's mad at you for not calling her when you say you will, promise her that you will call her at a certain time of the day. This will ensure that she waits by the phone. Tell her when you call you're going to tell her a special surprise. Now she'll be really excited. Now don't call. That's also quite funny!

Please do this and save your relationship. #Okbye

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Monday, December 23, 2013

READ: 5 Signs To Know If Your Man Is Cheating On You

Scary stats alert: 25% of married men admit to having had an affair and 56% of these were happy in their marriage when the affair began. So here are some tell tale signs to watch out for if you think your man may be playing away – one is probably nothing to worry about, but all five? We sense a tricky conversation coming on...

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1. He used to be happy for you to play Candy Crush on his phone but he’s become suddenly possessive of his gadgets. This, along with rejecting calls (especially if he hits ‘cancel’ several times in a row) are classic giveaway signs. Be on your guard and watch his reactions.

2. If he’s suddenly more granola than grease, you might have cause for concern. A sudden interest in health and appearance is a classic sign that he’s out to impress someone – and it may not be you.

3. Keep an eye on your sex life. A sudden drop in activity could mean he’s focusing his efforts elsewhere. However, some experts suggest that cheating can also ramp up a guy’s sex drive so constantly wanting more could be a bad sign too. Tricky... Our advice? Treat any sudden change with caution.

4. He’s never been particularly dedicated to work but suddenly he’s staying late and attending more conferences than Duncan Bannatyne. Hmm... Work is a great alibi for cheaters because it provides an opportunity for blame-free absence.

5. You’ve always got on well with his mates, but he’s started acting strangely when his friends are around or no longer wants to socialise in a group. Cheats usually feel terrible guilt and the last thing they want is for their partner to find out via a loose-lipped friend, so if you’re suddenly not in touch with his mates, you might want to wonder why...


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Friday, November 22, 2013

SEE The True Definition Of Love [PHOTOS]



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Sunday, October 27, 2013

TIPS: 9 Tips For Building Loving Relationships

How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.

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1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.

Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down.”

Remember: your partner is not the enemy.

2. Separate the facts from the feelings.

What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.

3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.

Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.

4. Develop and cultivate compassion.

Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.

5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.

The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.

The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.

6. Partner, heal thyself.

Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.

7. Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.

All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners’ behavior means. For example: “She doesn’t want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore.” We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what’s not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.

8. Make time for your relationship.

No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.

9. Say the “hard things” from love.

Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.


There you have it. Be kind to yourselves. Remember: change takes time and every step counts.

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Wednesday, October 23, 2013

REVEALED: 6 Ways To Know If A Woman Will Be Good In Bed (MUST READ)

Ever wonder what a girl will be like in bed before you’ve slept with her? Believe it or not, there are actually plenty of ways to tell — and no, we’re not talking about whether or not she deep throats her banana for breakfast.
According to experts, you can get serious intel about what your girl will be like between the sheets by looking at everything from the way she kisses to her favorite ice cream flavor.
Here are six key factors to consider:
1. She’s got swag in her step. Confidence is so sexy, and women who exude higher self-esteem in other arenas are likely to carry that confidence into the bedroom. But you can almost guarantee she’ll be a rockstar in the bedroom if you help give her a boost. Compliments can go a long way to put her at ease and encourage her to be an expressive and assertive lover.
2. She’s partial to cocktails. A recent study found that wine drinkers tend to be unadventurous and less likely to take risks, while vodka drinkers enjoy being in charge and independent. And here’s another not-so-shocking conclusion: tequila drinkers are “free spirited, outgoing and fun to be around.” Those sure sound like positive carnal qualities to us.
3. She appreciates food (and eats slowly). What this really means is that they are both primal and sensual experiences. A woman who delights in her meals and takes some time to savor the flavors may have an in-depth appreciation for carnal pleasure.
4. She licks this...type of ice cream. The same idea about food corresponding with sex rings true for her favorite type of ice cream. A study was conducted of 720 people, ages 24 to 59, to find out how ice cream flavors relate to personality. While other flavors corresponded with qualities like low-self-esteem and conservatism, It was found that coffee lovers tend to be dramatic, seductive and flirtatious.
5. She knows how to move her body. This might not come as a surprise, but athletes are often great in bed. Not only do sports breed confidence, but as we learn to appreciate and trust in our body's performance, our connection to our physical selves intensifies. On top of that, physical endurance, coordination, flexibility and strength can come in handy when you're hanging off the chandelier or getting creative in tight spaces!
6. She’s orally gifted. Pay close attention to the way she kisses—it might just give you cues about her sexual style when it comes to other “oral activities” (wink, wink). If kissing alone gets you all riled up, you can bet that her tongue and lips will be even more titillating on your most sensitive regions. But if that first kiss wasn't perfect, don't fret. Sometimes the excitement and nerves of the initial encounter can be so overwhelming that our performance suffers. As she becomes more comfortable, she'll likely come out of her sexual shell. And what if she’s a gentle kisser? That doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll be sheepish in the bedroom. She might want to be a sweet submissive one day and then a dominating diva the next. Our sexual roles are always changing.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

I Had Already Told God I Wanted To Marry A Virgin And I Got One- Holy Mallam


In a an Interview with Holly Mallam and his wife, The comedian said he married his wife a virgin, and they didn't even have sex until three days after their wedding. His wife also talked about how he helped him do it right, by reading it first online. Beautiful couple. Loving them already, lol. The interview from Punch below.

How did you meet?

Ijeoma:   I had seen him perform before and I was impressed with his style of presentation. The day we met, he hosted a show organised by my friend.   When it was time for him to leave, he could not because someone was blocking his car.  During the brief period he waited to move his car, we got talking and he gave me his call card.  When I got home that night, I decided to call him since he did not have my number. I felt it would be nice to have a comedian as a friend.  This was in May 2004. We have been married for eight years.

Holy Mallam:    I was in a hurry to leave the venue of the show in order to go and see a lady I was interested in at the time.   When Ijeoma called me that night, I was in the lady’s house. After her call and subsequent calls from me, we became friends and I eventually left the lady for her.

How did he propose?

Ijeoma: It was not spectacular, no ceremony. One day we were in the car and he said, ‘if we should get married right now your children would be Yoruba.  After a week, he just came and thrust a ring into my hand and I just collected it. Unfortunately it was too big for my fingers and he had to return it to the shop.

Why did you leave that other lady?

Holy Mallam: I was still talking to her, trying to get her to agree for us to date but she was giving me too many conditions.  The process was taking too long.

Were you a virgin at the time he met you?

Holy Mallam: She was.

Are you joking?

Holy Mallam: No. I am serious.   I had already told God that I wanted to marry a virgin.

Is he your first lover?

Ijeoma: Yes.

Why? You had gone through secondary school, the university and then went for national youth service..

Ijeoma: I just think it is God.  I gave my life to Christ when I was in Junior Secondary School.    Another thing was that I am a very shy person. I dreaded the thought of going to bed with a man, telling myself that I may not be able to face him in the morning.  I had male friends but our relationships did not last more than one month because along the line, the man would want intimacy as a proof of love. Then, our fellowship coordinator always cautioned us to keep ourselves pure.  He would tell us that if we disobeyed God, we would get pregnant.  Somebody else also told me that if a man married me as a virgin, he would appreciate me so much and give me whatever I wanted.

Was it after the wedding that you had sex with him for the first time?

Ijeoma: Yes. It was three days after the wedding because I was too scared. But on a Monday, my husband said, ‘we can’t continue like this.  I have paid and have done everything.’

Holy Mallam: It was a very big wedding. Over 1000 guests attended and I was too tired on the night of the wedding to do anything. That was a good excuse for her.

Did you have to read about how to deflower a lady?

Holy mallam: No.

Ijeoma:  I read it up on the internet and was able to guide him.

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Tuesday, October 8, 2013

PHOTOS : I am Single And Happy - Genevieve Nnaji


The Nollywood actress didnt really say it directly but she shared photos with words. See her posts below

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My Sister Wants To Marry A Security Man, Please Help


It all started the first time I saw a Teddy with my sister. Then I would see a love note here, a missed call there. I would see book gifts that had words written on it, all from the same guy. Later, when my sister was having a hard time at work, I used to hear her talking on the phone and from the response, it was obvious the guy was encouraging her. All these pointed to the fact that some chivalrous gentleman was showing some interest in my darling sister. 

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My sister has not been so lucky in love. She dated a guy who was abusive and really dealt with her, which is really painful as she's the most loving girl any guy can have.

Later, I got to know this new guy from her Facebook. He seemed decent enough. And then later I was utterly shocked to see him working as a security man at a bank.

I feel so disappointed in my sis. Is that the best She can do? Can't she get a decent man with a decent job? Must it be abusive man+ good job or good man+security job? I understand that he is loving. But, there are loving bankers out there, not the bank security guard.

Guys, I just want you to put yourself in my shoes. I can't even process that she's actually thinking of marrying this guy.

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Saturday, September 7, 2013

Man And Daughter Caught In The Act (PHOTO)



According to witnesses, a teen was performing a trick with the model helicopter when something went wrong, and the aircraft boomeranged and sliced the top of his head.
Pirozek also sheared off part of his shoulder, officials said. He was killed instantly.
“I’ll never forget it. It was scary,” said a shocked young witness.
Pirozek’s parents declined to speak to reporters.
Pirozek’s neighbors said he worked at Kennedy Airport and was a world-recognized flyer who choreographed routines with the model helicopters.
“It is the worst nightmare, to watch your son die,” one of the neighbours said.
Just days ago, he posted on his Facebook page that it was a “great day for flying.”
Pirozek was a member of the Seaview Rotary Wings, a Brooklyn-based club for model helicopter enthusiasts, of which his father is also the vice president.
The two of them flew model helicopters almost every weekend, sometimes traveling to competitions. The young man also uploaded videos with his model helicopter flights on YouTube.
“It was their big hobby, and it’s just very tragic to see and think about it,” said neighbor.
“It’s just an unreal event, that someone that young, that full of life, enjoying something, is gone. It’s an unbelievable tragedy. Every moment he had off from work or school, he’d be at the field with his friends,” said family friend.
Pirozek graduated in 2012 from the High School for Construction, Engineering and Architecture in Queens, according to his Facebook page.
No permits are necessary to operate RC helicopters, but it’s recommended that hobbyists take extensive lessons before flying one, according to Dennis D’Annunzio, an expert which specializes in making and designing such helicopters.
When the proper precautions are followed, he says accidents are rare.
“People might burn themselves on a hot muffler or nick themselves on a blade but I’ve never heard of anything this tragic before,” he said.

Friday, September 6, 2013

LMAO!!! Is This Guy Looking At A Fellow Man's Bo0bs (PHOTO)


Is Anybody seeing what am seeing? Like Seriously? Lmfao
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Married Woman Caught With Pastor In A Hotel In Lagos





Most times when men get married to women older than them, the tendency is that the women often grow out of the men's control overtime. In some cases, these woman start taking actions as the ones in-charge of their homes, thus disregarding their younger husbands.

On Friday, a 48-yrear-old man, Gbenga Awoyode revealed details of how his 52-year-old wife, Raliat was caught in the act with a Pastor inside a hotel in Lagos.

Mr. Awoyode, speaking before an Alagbado Grade A Customary Court, disclosed that his wife no longer have respect for him again, saying the night duties he does at Yaba College of Technology, Lagos provided his wife ample opportunity to engage in illicit sex with men in their neighborhood.

The divorce-seeking husband said he is fed up with the 15year old marriage because of the pains, shame and insult he has suffered in the union.

He lamented that his neighbour’s wife once accused his wife in the full glare of other neighbours to leave her husband alone.

He said the marriage produced three children, adding that Raliat has turned life into a nightmare for him and his two children from his first marriage, forcing the maltreated children to run away from home.

Apart from utter disregard for his family members, Awoyode claimed that his wife beats other relatives who dare to challenge her actions.

He also said his wife has the habit of seizing his documents, identification card and driver’s licence, adding that she destroys his belongings whenever they quarrel.

Awoyode prayed the court to grant him outright divorce, saying he did not pay any dowry on his wife.

Dispelling the claims of her husband, Raliat said he cooked up the allegations to give her a bad name in order to secure a divorce. She claimed that she is not a hostile person as claimed by her husband, pointing out that her husband’s callous attitude was the major problem in their marriage.

According to Raliat, her husband only gives her N200 as feeding allowance for nine people. She also alleged that he beats her up when she makes any comment on the meagre sum of money.

Raliat, who also accused her husband of dating another woman, appealed to the court not to dissolve the marriage as she still loves her husband.

Following the woman's claim that she still love her husband, the court president, P.A. Williams, adjourned the case till Monday, September 9, 2013 for further hearing.